Showing posts with label mom stuff. Show all posts
Showing posts with label mom stuff. Show all posts

Thursday, July 11, 2013

Introducing... THE STROLLI COOL!


The STROLLI COOL is a stroller cooling pad that works with water absorbing crystals to keep your babies cool and happy on hot days. Henry and I work out at the park every single day in Houston, so I originally made one for him just because I was desperate to fix how miserable and sweaty he was in the stroller. The idea was really well received by other moms, and then people asked to buy them, and then, today, I started selling them on Etsy. 

Some of the goods...

How it works...

I promise that I only decided to make these because they really do work. The first time I used it, Henry slept the entire time during Baby Boot Camp. So for any mom that spends a lot of time outdoors during the summer, you will love this. There is also an infant size that you can use for strollers with a car seat adapter. Just keep in mind that the STROLLI COOL should NEVER be used in a car seat while inside a motor vehicle. Common sense, yall. 

Go check out my store, and let me know what you think! If you are someone that I know personally and see often, message me about free shipping and I will just give it to you in person.

Some things that would make me super happy...
3. Spread the word to your friends
5. Hint to your mother-in-law that you'd like her to buy you one

I have a lot of people to thank for helping this to all come together. To all my mom friends for their feedback and encouragement. To my dad for buying me a sewing machine. To my husband for being cool with me ignoring him the last couple of weeks. To my mom for supervising Henry when I am sewing. To my sister-in-law for the idea. To my mother-in-law for helping me make my first one. And to the LA City Bus Driver... for taking a chance... on an unknown kid. (If you appreciate that quote, consider us best friends).

Love,
Lauren



Tuesday, July 9, 2013

Where do I begin?

Life has gotten kind of out of control lately. In a good way, but in a blog-neglecting way as well.

Henry is 9 months old today, and tomorrow is my final weigh in. I honestly think I am going to be ONE pound off. ONE. It really is fine, because I could easily get rid of one pound in an extra week... but to have lost 29 lbs instead of 30 is kind of dumb. I will let you know tomorrow! Here is a picture taken this weekend that I feel reflects some weight loss...

We are adding a big patio onto the back of our house and the workers started today. With a napping baby and two nutty dogs, it's a lot of tension.

We went to my parents' lake house all last week in Marble Falls. It was a really great place to be for the 4th of July. We entered the parade, and Henry got his first swing. I guess the judges couldn't fully appreciate my vision, because we didn't win...

Henry is crawling now which means I literally can't do anything while he is awake. We still haven't baby proofed the house or bought baby gates, so I have to watch him every second...

BUT ALL OF THAT IS SMALL POTATOES! I am in the process of starting a business. I already have an etsy store where I sell invitations and digital art. That part of the store has remained pretty small because I have been booked up doing custom work for friends. Which is so much fun, by the way, and if you are ever interested in a custom invitation, I would be happy to work with you! Also, if you see something somewhere else that you like, I can re-create most stuff as well. 

So what is this business, you ask? Remember the stroller cooling pad I made for Henry a couple weeks ago? Well, it has been a huge hit with other moms, and I quickly realized that I had something special on my hands. I am looking to launch everything on Thursday. It has been a lot of hard work. I got in the water ONCE while being at the lake for a week because I was sewing my life away. Here is a small sneak peek!

I will let you guys know when everything goes live this week! Stay tuned and thanks for checking in!

Love,
Lauren




Wednesday, June 12, 2013

Weight Wednesday: Starvation works!

I am really relieved I lost two pounds this past week. I had started to feel a sense of doom that there was no way I can meet my goal... but seriously, I think I can pull it off. In regards to the title of this post... FOR ME, I feel like I have to "starve" myself in order to lose weight. This does not mean that I am not eating anything, it just means that the amount that I can get away with eating leaves me feel like I am starving the whole freaking day. I wish I could be one of those people that has four 300 calorie meals a day and "never feels hungry." First of all, I think those people are lying. Whether it is to themselves or to everyone else, I don't believe for one second that they wouldn't kill for pizza or some french fries at any point in the day. 

For me, the whole thing with this weight loss stuff is that it is very difficult. It is very unsatisfying. It sometimes feels like torture. I do still have "bad" meals every week (cough last night), but what I have to do the next day to make up for it is like eat a can of tuna and call it a day. The thing is, no matter what it takes for YOU to lose weight... sorry, but that's what it takes for YOU to lose weight. If you can cut out soda and lose 10 lbs, great, do that. If you have to eat under 1000 calories per day on top of working out for two hours... Yeah, that sucks. I feel for you. I know how unfair it feels. I know how frustrating it is. But my personal experience is YOU JUST HAVE TO DO IT. You have to move past how much "harder" it is for you than the average person, and just get it done.

I like being open about this because it really bothers me when people or celebrities try to make it seem like weight loss was so easy or even FUN for them. Any celebrity that claims they lost weight from pole dancing or some dumb shit like that is also leaving out that they probably also never eat. When Kirstie Alley loses weight and says she is a size 4, I want to scream. GIRL, YOU ARE NOT A SIZE 4. STOP LYING. Or when Kim Kardashian says she weighs 120 pounds. Shyeah... In your bra! I think the most refreshing thing I have ever heard a celebrity say was when Katy Perry stated that she weighs 135 lbs... See, THAT makes sense. Her body is amazing, she looks great, and she has huge boobs. Drew Barrymore recently gave an interview where she said how trying to have the perfect body or the perfect career right now would compromise how good of a mother she could be to her new baby. Yes. Spending 6 hours a day in the gym like Kate Hudson did as soon as her baby was born probably was not in the best interest of her newborn son. So thanks, Drew Barrymore, for being one of the few moms in Hollywood who seems to understand this. Sarah Jessica Parker was also very graceful about weight loss after the birth of her son. She basically didn't even want to talk about it and said that her looks were so not the point of what was going on in her life with a new baby. 

So on a less angsty note... I hope all of your weight loss endeavors are going well! I know one thing that would help me a lot right now would be to drink more water. I hardly ever experience thirst, so it takes a lot of effort for me to drink enough water through out the day. Any suggestions on how much water I need to be drinking every day? Or how to get on a water drinking schedule? I'd love to hear your experiences on how water intake has affected your weight loss!

Love,
Lauren

Tuesday, June 11, 2013

Henry: 8 months!

We are two thirds of the way through our first year. Which basically means I need to start planning his birthday party immediately.

Henry hasn't been to the doctor in a while, so I honestly have no clue how big he is. I know that he is somewhere between 19 and 20 pounds, and that is ALL that I know. His head doesn't seem to be getting any smaller in proportion to his body, so ole Henny big head is here to stay. PS - my nick name for Henry is Henny. His nickname was supposed to be Hank (which I love and find absolutely adorable), which is a big reason we named him Henry, but not one time have I ever felt compelled to call him Hank.

My favorite thing to report on is Henry's teeth. He currently has one tooth on top and THREE on the bottom. It's a really good look for a baby, I guess. We had been paying so much attention to when the top teeth were going to come in, that we didn't event notice that a side tooth on the bottom had popped out. I looked it up on the internet (you know, that thing, the internet), and everything is coming in out of order. Maybe a wisdom tooth will be next? Either way, I desperately need a break from teething. I can imagine how badly it hurts to bust a tooth through your gums, and Henry definitely lets us know how uncomfortable it is. They need to make XL teething-sized bottles of baby tylenol because we go through one in like a week.

The next order of business is crawling. Henry CAN crawl, he just chooses not to. Kind of like how I CAN cook, but it's really just not for me. He goes backwards, and around in a circle, but for some reason, as soon as he needs to go forward, he gives up and starts whining. I have no explanation for it other than he is teething 24/7 these days, and isn't in the right frame of mind to take on new challenges at the moment. Plus, he knows that mommy can't say no to a sad baby, so he is probably just waiting for me to come pick him up when he is on his tummy.

He is talking, as in making lots of noises and sounds, but no words yet. I seriously hold his fingers on my mouth, Helen Keller style, while I say mama over and over again. Doesn't seem to be making a difference. He makes a lot of "ba ba ba" sounds, but no ma or da.

Henry is getting into EVERYTHING these days. He straight up pulled a lamp off my nightstand today (as I was holding him), so he cannot be trusted with anything, really. Sometimes I have no choice but to let him sit on my lap while I do my makeup, and he goes insane with my makeup drawer. I wouldn't care except I have lip glosses in there that are like nasty 5 year old relics from college that may have been dropped on the floor of a bar at some point. We are now the people who at a restaurant have to take everything off of the table. The people who have no control over their infant. Henry is also finally starting to get mad when you take things away from him. Before, it didn't seem to matter. But now, it's like ... real bad.

My child is still an excellent night sleeper. He averages about 11.5 hours a night and never wakes up. His naps have been a moving target for the past month or two. I feel like I spend every day stressing out about his naps. The science of baby napping is so delicate. It's like you want them to sleep as much as possible (so you can watch your DVR), but you know that if their first nap of the day is too long, that you will pay for it when he doesn't nap the rest of the day. And by dinner time, he is so unbelievably tired and grumpy that there's nothing you can do to make it better. Imagine a very fine scale that can detect grains of sand added or taken away. That's the best imagery I can provide for how on edge naps make me all day.

So here he is... my baby...

These pictures are getting harder and harder to take...

I love this little baby more than anything on earth. He is my little angel, and I'm super proud of both of us for making it this far. Of course, we couldn't have done it without that dad person that lives in the house, too. 

Love,
Lauren

Tuesday, May 21, 2013

Matching family style: chambray stripes

I've decided that I am on to something when it comes to matching family outfits. Henry and Tom were matching this past weekend, and I thought why do they get to have all the fun? I found some mom options to round out the entire chambray stripe theme and a bonus outfit for baby. Thank goodness I do not have a girl, because this would get insane real fast.



Tom has the above shirt from Old Navy. I think this is the first thing I have ever bought him from Old Navy, but I saw it in the window and loved it instantly. Old Navy's men's clothing typically leave something to be desired, but I definitely subscribe to some of the short sleeve shirts they have one sale right now. 

Henry has the striped shorts and they are from JC Penney. I literally never shop at JC Penney, but one day I was desperate to find a tshirt for Henry so I checked out the kids' department. Let me tell you... For BABY boys, JC Penney literally has the best selection of clothes of anywhere I have been (other than Baby Gap which is much more expensive). I feel that Penney's has a lot of actual clothes for baby boys. Most department stores just have very baby-ish clothes for baby boys. In my opinion, boys need to graduate to real clothes much sooner than baby girls, but there tends to be a big gap from 6-12 months for boys in terms of "cool" or "fun" clothes. So whether or not JC Penney is somewhere you typically shop, I would give their boys department a whirl.

I don't have any of the lady items you see above, but I am especially obsessed with that clutch. It also comes in hot pink for $145. (Husband, these are the type of things you should file away in your brain for the future). I also love this dress from Old Navy. It comes in red and blue, and the blue would fit perfectly with the above theme. Personally, I've been eyeing the red for a while, but I don't think I want it (or any item of clothing ever) bad enough to have to wear a strapless bra for it.

Love,
Lauren




Monday, May 20, 2013

Family time at the lake...

One thing about having a baby that distinctly changes your life is the profound appreciation you have for spending time together as a family. I loved spending time with my husband before we had a baby, but now that Henry is here, that joy that you get from being around your loved ones definitely transcends anything I've felt before towards my family. 

We went to my family's lake house in Marble Falls this past weekend, and that feeling of togetherness was in full bloom. The lake house is literally my favorite place on earth. Marble Falls is where I attended summer camp growing up, and it's where Tom and I got married. For the past 10 years, I have been coming to this magical place, and it truly feels more like home to me than my parent's house in Houston. I have so many memories at the lake, and I know as our family grows that its special place in my heart will continue to evolve. My family has been explicitly instructed to scatter my ashes over Lake LBJ. 

Magical, right?
Imagine waking up to this every morning...
 Henry's first time in a baby pool...
 Tank top weather...
 If you are from Texas, this outfit needs no explanation. But if you're wondering why I am wearing a men's fishing shirt, just trust me that this is high fashion on the lake.
 Pie from Blue Bonnet Cafe...
 Trying to sleep in the back with Henry on the way home...

Does everyone agree that the Hill Country is the most amazing part of Texas? Especially in May before it gets to be one billion degrees outside. 

Love,
Lauren

Monday, May 13, 2013

Mother's Day recap...

 I hope all of you had a great Mother's Day! We had a nice day that started with me getting to sleep in. But then, of all mornings, a woodpecker starting pecking at our house around 8:15am, so my rare opportunity to sleep in was ruined. Typical. We went on a nice long walk with the dogs in the morning, and then we met my parents for brunch at Perry's.

Immediately following, I passed out and took a two hour nap. To stabilize my post-nap diabetes, Tom took me to Connie's Custard for an evening snack. If you live anywhere near Klein or Cypress, you need to go there next time you're in the mood for a treat.

Lastly, I watched the new Game of Thrones (WITH SUBTITLES), which is always the perfect end to my weekend. I realize I haven't ever mentioned this on my blog, but I can't hear for shit. I don't qualify for a hearing aid or anything like, but when it comes to any show where the main characters have accents, I usually only get the gist of what is happening. The first two season of Game of Thrones caused me a lot of stress as I not only didn't know who anyone was (how many middle-aged men with brown hair can be on one show?), but I also had no idea what they were saying. I am now finally getting it. Except, could someone please draw me a picture of "the wall" and explain to me who is where, because it's not all adding up for me at the moment.

Anyway, the best part of my day was probably Henry's outfit. I rarely dress him in anything but tshirts, so his cuteness on Mother's Day overwhelmed me. I also wanted to include a picture of my new sandals because I am pretty sure they are Lauren Dougherty personified as a shoe.







Did anyone see Great Gatsby this weekend? I am dying to see it. Dy. Ing. The trailer gets me so excited that I feel sick to my stomach when I watch it. Leo is my favorite actor, and it's not just because in 6th grade I literally thought that if I prayed hard enough, that we would get married some day. To be honest, I have never read The Great Gatsby, as it was never assigned to me in high school. I don't know what the ending is, so I am wondering if I am going to sob as hard as I did when I saw Romeo + Juliet or Moulin Rouge for the first time. 

Love,
Lauren

Sunday, May 12, 2013

Friday, May 10, 2013

Henry: 7 months!

This is the first month that I feel slightly panicked by how quickly this whole baby thing is going to be over. Before, my reaction was more along the lines of "thank you, Jesus" every time he did something that made him less helpless. But now... I don't really know how to finish this sentence. Just picture me with a really pathetic, sad look on my face.

 He has changed so much in the past month, and he is becoming more and more like a "big boy" every day. I mean, he can't crawl yet or anything, but he is maneuvering and getting around here and there. As much as I want relief from having to move him and carry him everywhere, it really is sad when they start to not need you as much. Especially because when they're doing their own thing, you can tell that you are the last thing on their mind. As a mom, you don't get any closure to the end of your child's developmental stages, because they are already fully immersed in the next stage. There's no special baby hug they give you before they start holding their own bottle or pulling up on the crib.

Henry has had a lot of mental leaps as well. He is talking a lot more all of a sudden, and it just feels like he is really trying to communicate. All his sounds are either G or H sounds right now. I probably spend 30 minutes every day just saying mama and dada over and over again right in his face. He loves it and smiles, but there is no attempt to mimic yet. As I mentioned before, he is also learning the game of life. Lesson 1: how to trick your mom into doing everything you say. The worst thing he has learned is how to fight sleep. Watching your baby fight sleep is the most obnoxious thing ever.

For toys, Henry loves everything that isn't a toy. Let's see... Keys, boxes, any type of container, paper towel rolls, hair brushes, plastic bags (he is supervised), the mail, my shirt, washcloths in the bath, packets of baby wipes, and anything else he can get his hands on. I spent over $100 the last month on toys, so you can image how dumb I feel.

How big is Henry now? Big enough. His next doctor appointment is not until 9 months, so your guess is as good as mine. I do know that he is getting fatter. The creases in his wrists and his tiny double chin keep growing. He is still somewhere in the 6-12M clothes range, and he is wearing size 3 diapers.

Henry is eating pureed baby foods. I gave him chicken noodle for the first time today, and he really loved it. In general, I think the fruits are more tart or sweet than he really likes. I also give him puffs in hopes that one day he will be able to get one in his mouth on his own. I have almost retired mum mums because they are such a pain in the ass to clean up. They get really mushy, but they dry as hard as cement in like 5 seconds.

He has also had a piece of a french fry. And just like Alicia Silverstone, I chewed it a little bit and then let him eat it. I did it without even thinking. I just clamped my teeth down on it a few times before I handed it to him so that he would be less likely to choke. I didn't like chew it up, swish it around with milk, and then barf it into his mouth. I am, however, completely guilty of eating a puff or mum mum that fell out of my child's mouth.

I'm really not that concerned with baby food. I know there are people who put a lot of effort into making their own or being extremely specific about what they give the baby. I think that is really great, seriously, I am just fully aware that I don't seem to care that much right now. The only thing I care about is when will he be able to start eating grilled cheese? I haven't had a grilled cheese in years, and I've been obsessing about it ever since he started on solids. Oh, and teddy grahams.

I really couldn't decide which one I love more...


Love,
Lauren

Tuesday, May 7, 2013

The worst kept secret ever...

If you have seen me anytime in the last 7 months, was I wearing running shoes? Nike shorts? A vneck tshirt? The answer is probably yes. Makeup? Hair down? Jewelry? The answer is probably no.

So my secret is that I honestly probably wear real clothes for a total of 6 hours max in an entire week. Seriously. A couple hours every time we go out to dinner, and I will go ahead and throw in some bonus occasion like a doctor's appointment or a shopping trip where the service I get will partially be determined by how non-poor I look. Other than that, workout clothes 24/7. 

I wish I could say this is because I'm a mom and I don't have time for all that jazz. It has nothing to do with being a mom, because I don't think I wore jeans to class one time in my five years at college. Once I quit my job to move back to Texas, my kind of awesome work wardrobe became obsolete. So did anything with a non-elastic waistband. 

I am completely exploiting the fact that as a society, we have accepted workout clothes as the new casual uniform. And for some ridiculous reason that I cannot explain, I usually feel cuter in running shorts with no makeup that I do in jeans with my hair down. 

Actually, being a mom has led me to step up my game a bit. A couple months ago I had to have a chat with myself that it just wasn't ok to keep wearing my old ZTA shirts, even just to run around the park. And that my ancient J. Crew tshirt with 4 holes in it really wasn't ok either. After that, I decided to make an investment in workout clothes that at least look slightly put together. Translation: I went out and bought about 6 Old Navy vnecks. Nothing says "I have nailed elegant workout dressing" like a white tshirt from Old Navy. 

Even more recently, I've bought some legit workout shirts and tanks. Before, I refused to buy anything like this because I had about 9 million tshirts rotting in my drawers that I could wear. But now I am slowly building up my arsenal of brightly colored dry fit items. 

Last night, my mom took Henry and I to dinner (where I wore workout clothes), and then treated us to a mini shopping trip at Gap. Henry's purchases were, of course, the cutest. But I headed straight for the GapFit section. About two years ago, I bought some stuff from Gap that I really loved and considered them a great new resource for active wear. But then something happened, and it all went to shit for about two years. 

The GapFit phoenix has now risen from the ashes and is flying high in some pretty awesome fitness gear. So I got (thanks, mom!) these badass pink shorts. I love them because they are perforated which is a design detail that makes me giddy in any fashion category. (note - the shorts run big). I also got a purple tank top because my farmer's tan is getting slightly out of control, and my shoulders need to start working towards their sun damage quota for the year.


 Check out some of the cuteness they have going on right now. For those of you that are like, "black pants? What's the big deal?" The list of things I expect out of black running pants is longer than the list of things I expect out my husband.


What do you think? It's fun and cute, but not as expensive as schmu-schmu-schmemon. I love that place, but I simply cannot pay $72 for a sportsbra. However, my husband has been instructed than any time he needs help buying me a gift, that he can go and buy me a $72 sportsbra. Speaking of, I still feel like my journey to find the perfect sportsbra is in it's infancy. Please tell me if you have any good advice on sportsbras. I need something supportive, but because I am out in the sun so much, I am on the hunt for something with thinner straps. Any ideas? I will send a gift to anyone that aids me in this quest!

Love,
Lauren

Thursday, May 2, 2013

Strangers on the internet love me...

I left a comment on one of my favorite blogs the other day, and apparently it was well received. There was a debate going on about whether you should start giving your babies solids at 4 or 6 months (it got really intense, y'all). I'm pretty sure my advice is some level of genius, because it's so unbelievably obvious. So for you other moms, here is what I have to say about starting your baby on food...


Laziness is always a huge factor in most of my decisions. So after that first time I tried to give Henry some rice cereal at 4 months, it was pretty clear that neither of us were ready to put in the work. And guess what? HE LIVED. And now he eats everything. And is allergic to nothing. 

Jenna, if you're out there, please email me or something so we can be friends!

Love,
Lauren

PS - Also, get this clip on high chair. It's the best.



Thursday, April 25, 2013

What to do when your baby learns how to get their way...

Just kidding. I have no idea what to do. I currently know nothing about how to keep your 6 month old happy and entertained all day. Also, I'm an idiot. In my post where I said having a 6 month old baby is so easy, I was really dumb to think after a 3 day streak of no crying and long naps that we had moved into some sort of baby bliss era. After those 3 days were over, Henry learned a lot about the world. Most of all, he learned the boring reality that he has stay home with his mom all day.

I think he GETS IT now that he is a person and that he can influence his environment. He gets it that when he whines or cries, that I'm supposed to do something. He gets it that he has choices. He understands manipulation (although, that part is just genetic).

My life currently resembles the plot of The Devil Wears Prada. Henry is portraying the role of Miranda, and Andy is being played by yours truly. Except there is no makeover, and more importantly, no one is making me fancy grilled cheese sandwiches.

"I don't know what else I can do because if I do something right, it's unacknowledged. She doesn't even say thank you. But if I do something wrong, she is vicious."

That quote is the current relationship between me and my child. And doing something wrong usually means that I have moved outside of his 3 feet radius that he would prefer I remain in at all times. Seriously, if I ever get up from where we are playing he looks at me like "ummmm are you really sure you want to be doing that?"

And it's not just that he wants me with him. He wants me to be the one grabbing the toys and handing them to him. His baby mirror has no value to him unless we are BOTH looking at our reflections together, and the cups only work if I restack them every 10 seconds. Apparently he has better things to do than be bothered with independent play.

I constantly go back and forth between "you can't spoil a baby" and "I am totally spoiling my baby." Obviously, if I continue to sit with him every second of the day, he is not going to like doing stuff by himself. But at the same time, I have to keep reminding myself that THAT'S WHAT BEING A MOM IS. And listen, I am happy to be with my baby all day. I believe in it, and I wouldn't have it any other way. But maybe sometimes I wonder how I can trick someone into being my free nanny.

Henry's reaction to this post...

Love,
Lauren


Friday, April 19, 2013

How being a broke ass stay at home mom has changed my life...


I knew when we had a baby, that duh, we wouldn't have as much extra cash lying around. I also did the math and knew that being a stay at home mom means you don't earn any money. But I guess I never really, really thought about how much this would affect my life, and in turn, my identity.

This post really isn't about money. Thomas and I have a decent house, and we don't go hungry, and we can still afford to pay for HBO and DVR. So if you're already like shut up you dumb ho... just stick with me, because seriously, it's not about money. It's about how money has recently shined a gigantic spotlight on a few intangible sacrifices of being a mom. It's about how when it's suddenly not about you anymore, your place in the world gets slightly confusing.

When I was younger, I put a lot of effort into achievement. It was extremely important to me that people thought I was intelligent and successful. When I was working, I wanted people to see that I knew my shit. Not only that I could work hard and do a good job, but that I had good taste and was extremely educated in things like fashion history and textile science. So now that I am a mom, I don't have a job to exercise my love for retail, and as a result of that, I can't even express that love through how I dress.

I really don't consider myself a shallow person. I feel that I have a lot of depth and character. But this whole adjustment is making me realize just how much I like THINGS. Especially when it comes to clothes, it is really hard for me to walk away from something I love. As a person with a fashion retailing degree, and someone who was a buyer, seeing great clothes and new trends EXCITES me. Like I get butterflies in my stomach. It's the same way an art teacher could appreciate painting and sculpture so much more deeply than I ever could. But the thing about it is, the best way to interact with fashion it is to wear it. When a new idea emerges, for example pointed flats, I want to participate in it. I want to endorse it and give it my patronage. But for now, I bottom line can't afford it... and it makes my life feel so different. Setting aside a passion that you love is hard. Not shopping honestly feels like a loss to my authentic self.

Of course, I still am smart and love to wear awesome clothes, but that's no longer immediately obvious to the external world. My job now is to be as good of a mom as possible, and unfortunately there is no sort of achievement scale to be measured against or ladder to climb. There is no standardized test for parenting that I could potentially get an awesome score on. I am sure it says something bad about me that I require formal evaluation to feel like I have achieved something. Or that I crave approval so badly. But when it's just you and your baby all day, how do you know that you are just soooo good at playing with stacked cups? Or that you are awesome at washing bottles or giving baths or feeding them applesauce?

Sometimes I just hug Henry and whisper in his ear that I hope he thinks I am a good mommy. Or that I hope he understands just a little bit that I'm trying really hard.

There is definitely some good that comes out of being stripped of a lot of your identity. In all honesty, I've had to focus a lot more on who I really am and how I can be better at connecting with people. I have always considered myself a nice and friendly girl, but I didn't put a whole lot of thought into how much other people would agree with that. When I meet someone for the first time now, I don't have a job to small talk about, so I better at least be likable, right? Writing that I am trying to be more likable kind of feels like the dumbest thing ever, but it's very real for me at the moment. Don't get me wrong, any recent increase in my amicability is genuine. I'm not faking it, I've just focused on letting that part of my personality shine a little brighter.

As much as I would still jump at the chance to buy something new or spend any extra cash I have lying around, I very much appreciate the introspection being a mom and having no money has given me. I now know how much I was relying on my laurels, and even my clothes, to speak for me. And I am learning how to really be myself versus a walking resume. At the age 27, the following statement is somewhat embarrassing, but I guess I am just now finally understanding how much better it feels for someone to like you rather than be impressed by you.

Love,
Lauren



Monday, April 15, 2013

Mom stuff Monday...

Best part of my day. Hands down. 


Love,
Lauren

Friday, April 12, 2013

Henry: 6 months!

I can't believe that my first child, my flesh and blood, is already 6 months old. And to be clear, I am not sad about this AT ALL! Sure, I have moments every day where I will feel the full weight of the realization that Henry is only going to be my little baby for about half a second. And at those moments, I am tempted to go lay in bed and sob for 2 hours. But, life has gotten so much easier as he has gotten older. He eats better, he sleeps better, he plays better, and he is finally on a reliable schedule. 

Let's talk about the schedule. I have never been interested in Baby Wise or any scheduling programs for babies. Mostly because I kind of feel like once you set a schedule, you screw yourself. You become a slave to THE SCHEDULE. I moreso had the attitude that I will try to keep our days consistent, and that hopefully Henry will develop a schedule that fits around our typical activities. Luckily, it worked out perfectly. He is still flexible, so if it's nap time, but we're not home from Target yet, all hell doesn't break loose. I'm not dogging Baby Wise (because I totally believe that it works), I just knew that I didn't want to not be able to work out or go to lunch because the schedule said I couldn't. I mean, overall, I still pretty much plan my day around what I think his schedule will be, but I like that it's not this extra thing to worry about at the back of my mind. 

Henry has always been a champion sleeper, and in the past two months he is sleeping longer and longer. He is now officially sleeping about 12 hours every night... and doesn't wake up once. Usually. While this is obviously awesome, it is kind of annoying that we have to go to dinner at like 5:30 so we can accommodate his 7pm bedtime routine. I do feel pretty rigid about bedtime (probably because of my own sleep issues), and I get really stressed out if we have to put him to bed late. And I would never put him to sleep say at his grandma's and then wake him up at 9pm to go home. Henry sleeps perfectly for the most part, and the last thing I want to do is mess with something so reliable. 

His stats for 6 months are: weight-17.4 lbs (51%), height-26.75 inches (63%), and head circumference-18.1 inches (96%). He is in size 3 diapers, and because baby clothes are crazy he is wearing anywhere from 6M to 12M clothes. 

For development, he is sitting and rolling on both sides. He's eating pureed baby foods pretty well, loves mum mums, and is starting to get the hang of puffs. So far, his favorite food is carrots, and he shuns bananas for some reason. He's also still getting five 8oz bottles of formula a day. He is figuring out his sounds a bit more, and is currently doing this weird throat-clearing thing all the time. We are teaching him sign language, but have no clue if he is absorbing any of it. 

OH, AND HE HAS TWO TEETH! I can't believe I almost forgot that! Teething is a bitch, so maybe I tried to block it out of my memory.


And, I forgot to post his 5 month picture...

Love,
Lauren


Monday, April 8, 2013

Mom Stuff Mondays...

I am not an especially sentimental person. No one would probably ever describe me as "sweet" or "bubbly". Accordingly, it's just not really in my nature to be all ooey-gooey about how wonderful it is to be a mom. My first instinct is to discuss the more humorous, ironic, or self-depricating parts of being a mom. While everything I write on here about motherhood is genuine and real, maybe it's not really painting the full picture. Because I am totally the mom that is madly in love with her baby. I believe that my baby is the best and cutest ever. There is nothing I love more in this world than our baby, and every day with him is an incredible gift.

Going forward, I would like to dedicate Mondays to sharing why being a mom is the best thing ever. On one hand, having a baby is super hard. But on the other hand, what could be easier than hanging out with an adorable little boy that thinks you're the best?

This? How could this be hard?

Love,
Lauren


Monday, April 1, 2013

How I currently feel about the internet...

If you're a woman, the internet basically exists to make you feel inadequate, jealous, or boring. Pinterest is always telling us how to dress better than we can afford, cook more than we have time for, and come up with more kids crafts than you physically can store in your home.

I am willing to acknowledge that my blog is also guilty of this. Obviously, I use pictures/stories that put myself or my family in a flattering light. You should always put your best foot forward, right? But I just want to make sure everyone knows that having a blog makes it very easy to create and manage the impression you leave of yourself on social media.

For example: my coffee table on Valentine's Day. This is what we call "styling."
 But just like the rest of the world wide web, I was totally bullshitting you. Behind the curtain...
My house actually does usually look slightly better than that picture. But that's only because I have since disposed of all plush dog toys that can be torn to shreds. But this is real life. That pledge bottle probably set out like that for at least a few days.

People who follow me on instagram always comment on how Henry is "so happy." Well, cat's out of the bag... at least 30% of the day, he is royally pissed off at me. Usually because I have broken eye contact or gone outside of his 5 foot radius. I take about 100 pictures of Henry a day, and maybe 3 of them make it to the internet. It's the same thing how I obviously am only going to post pictures of myself in which you cannot detect a double chin. People tell me I am photogenic... well yeah, because I only put pictures of myself on the internet in which I look good. This backfires, by the way. Several times throughout my life I have had the distinct suspicion that someone was trying to hint that I look better in pictures than in real life.

So, thanks! Yes, Henry is a cutie... most of the time. But, let's be honest. There are hundreds of reject photos in my phone...
And of course, I still think he looks adorable in all of those pictures, but they're not the smiley-giggley perfection I would usually post.

I just want to hammer home the point that your life doesn't have to look perfect to be perfect. You guys probably all already know that, but I constantly find myself needing to be reminded of this.

Love,
Lauren